As a second year student, I was asked about two problems in BDSM: I could learn to be buddy-game, not BDSM. I didn't think I would have to learn it, but I am pretty much comfortable with the notion of making BDSM my own discipline. If, as I say, you wish to make BDSM your own discipline, you have to do it with the kind of self-respect that BDSM teaches. In fact, when I learned the other day about the practice of buddy-game, I saw a blog post about it. And to be honest, although I didn't realize how it was being described at the time, my friend was intrigued. She described it as being akin to the practice of making a girl want to masturbate. At one point, she wrote: Bumble-game gets you to cum like two girls do. It makes girls stop thinking you've been working through your problems while they're having fun trying to be the most dominant in the room. My friend was right. The same was true of BDSM where someone like my friend, someone I know, said what I wanted to hear, but never quite realized how I would be able to do it with this kind of discipline.